"Before I built a wall I'd ask to know, what I was walling in or walling out?" - Mr. Robert Frost
Whenever I ask someone about the benefits of building walls they give me the exact same answer every time. "They are good for keeping things out."
That is certainly true. And then I ask, "What else are they good at doing?" You wouldn't believe the dead silence that usually comes back my way.
"Uhmmm. I really have no idea." Don't worry I'll give you the answer. Walls are great for keeping things out but they also keep things "in."
This is exactly where the trouble is when it comes to our daily lives. We build walls for many reasons: fear, pain, regret, doubt, worry...I mean the list goes on and on. In fact, the more pain we go through the more walls we build. We build them higher, double back them, and try to make them indestructible all with the intent of keeping out those bad experiences again.
Unfortunately, when you are building these walls to keep out the negative experiences of life you are also keeping in your gifts and everything else that is positive inside of you. The world never gets to see what you truly have to offer because you are hiding it in your own little prison.
But it gets worse. Since you spent so much time building walls you never built any doors to help you escape from this prison when things get bad.
As life would have it, it loves to create a little bit of chaos once you think you are safe. It will find its way into your "protected" zone and start a few fires here and there. Then, since you have no escape, you will watch everything burn straight to the ground.
Walls are bad for you. They can truly hurt you.
When you shut yourself off from experiencing life, you aren't really thriving you're just surviving. You are trying to string it together day by day and time passes you by. You never really get out there into the world and live it.
These walls that you've built served you at one time in protecting your heart, but now they are just hurting you. They are hurting you because you can't grow from that trapped place anymore. You can't experience what you need to experience to help you continue to develop. The negative emotions stay out (for the most part) but those positive qualities that you have - the potential that you have discovered - those stay in.
Your gifts will never come out to play if you are living safely inside your castle.
That's the dead honest truth. You must tear down the walls if you really want to live an outrageously amazing experience in this world.
Yes it's going to the scary. But stepping into vulnerability is a life changing decision.
Tear down the walls. Take a risk.
Whenever I ask someone about the benefits of building walls they give me the exact same answer every time. "They are good for keeping things out."
That is certainly true. And then I ask, "What else are they good at doing?" You wouldn't believe the dead silence that usually comes back my way.
"Uhmmm. I really have no idea." Don't worry I'll give you the answer. Walls are great for keeping things out but they also keep things "in."
This is exactly where the trouble is when it comes to our daily lives. We build walls for many reasons: fear, pain, regret, doubt, worry...I mean the list goes on and on. In fact, the more pain we go through the more walls we build. We build them higher, double back them, and try to make them indestructible all with the intent of keeping out those bad experiences again.
Unfortunately, when you are building these walls to keep out the negative experiences of life you are also keeping in your gifts and everything else that is positive inside of you. The world never gets to see what you truly have to offer because you are hiding it in your own little prison.
But it gets worse. Since you spent so much time building walls you never built any doors to help you escape from this prison when things get bad.
As life would have it, it loves to create a little bit of chaos once you think you are safe. It will find its way into your "protected" zone and start a few fires here and there. Then, since you have no escape, you will watch everything burn straight to the ground.
Walls are bad for you. They can truly hurt you.
When you shut yourself off from experiencing life, you aren't really thriving you're just surviving. You are trying to string it together day by day and time passes you by. You never really get out there into the world and live it.
These walls that you've built served you at one time in protecting your heart, but now they are just hurting you. They are hurting you because you can't grow from that trapped place anymore. You can't experience what you need to experience to help you continue to develop. The negative emotions stay out (for the most part) but those positive qualities that you have - the potential that you have discovered - those stay in.
Your gifts will never come out to play if you are living safely inside your castle.
That's the dead honest truth. You must tear down the walls if you really want to live an outrageously amazing experience in this world.
Yes it's going to the scary. But stepping into vulnerability is a life changing decision.
Tear down the walls. Take a risk.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into some great quotes for happiness by clicking here or read more on having some patience.
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