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With Help From A Marriage Counselor Arlington TX Couples Can Start Again

By Janet Wood


Sociology experts know that healthy families are the most important building blocks of healthy societies. Unfortunately, the divorce rate is still rising and each year numerous families are torn asunder when relationships sink. Divorce is always accompanied by a host of emotions and the process can cause great damage to all parties concerned, especially children. However, instead of simply terminating a relationship and by opting to see a marriage counselor Arlington TX couples may be able to save their families.

Only a few decades ago divorce was relatively rare. Divorce was an ugly word and their was a stigma attached to divorced individuals. This is no longer the case. Laws have changed and it is no much easier to dissolve a long term relationship. Society, too, has changed its attitudes and divorce is no longer seen as something to be ashamed of. It is, in fact, extremely commonplace.

Relationship experts maintain that most relationships can be saved if the parties involved are willing to work on the relationship and to seek professional help. This is especially the case in long term relationships and where there are children involved. Divorce can have a devastating effect upon children and it is worth making a concerted effort, even if it is just for the well being of the children.

Couples opting for therapy often do so because they are loath to forego a lifetime of saving and building the financial security of the family. They try to salvage the relationship because they realize that a divorce is not only expensive but that it can destroy years of careful planning and sacrifices. They know that a divorce will also seriously impact upon the lifestyle they grew used to.

Couples often fail to reconcile, even after agreeing to make the effort and in many cases it is because they do not obtain professional help. A professional therapist will help the couple to identify the causes of the break down in the relationship. The parties involved are seldom able to stand back and identify the relevant issues in an objective manner and to find a common middle ground.

Experts agree that it is better to choose a therapist not previously know to either party. Both parties need to resolve to be totally honest with the therapist and with each other and to truly make an effort. It is also important to understand that no therapist can save a relationship. He can only act as facilitator and use his experience and training to steer the therapy sessions in the right direction.

There some instances where it would actually be better to divorce. This is often the case when physical, emotional and substance abuse have become prevalent. If there is no reasonable hope that trust, open communication and mutual support can be established again, it may also be better to divorce. If staying together will subject children to ongoing trauma the relationship can only cause more harm.

Therapists agree that the vast majority of failed relationships are due to lack of communication. Couples sensing that they are drifting apart, or who feel as if the relationship no longer satisfies them should seek professional help as soon as possible. In many cases it is possible to deal with the issues that caused the rift.




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