The emotions that you're feeling in the wake of your breakup are perfectly normal. The doubt and despair as well as the confusion and sadness over your loss strike your heart like an arrow. Trying to sort out what your ex might be feeling can leave you perplexed and grasping at straws as you attempt to decipher what your ex says and what they do. Does your ex still love you or was it all a dream?
You are probably having a difficult enough time with your emotions and your life at the moment. Trying to unravel what is going on inside the mind of your ex is almost impossible. You need to know, though. You want to know if there is a spark of love left in their heart. Can you fan that flame and make that love burst to life once again? Knowing that your ex is still in love with you can give you that hope and help you to remain patient as your ex works through their emotions and feelings. These signs will tell you everything you need to know about what lies in their heart.
If you hear from some of your friends or family members that you ex was in touch with them then there is a good chance that your ex is missing you. Your ex might say that they were simply catching up with old friends or that they didn't want to be rude to your family but the truth is probably something completely different. For your ex to contact your mutual friends or your immediate family, there is probably still some love there for you and a feeling of loss that they needed to address. Contacting people close to you is a passive way of contacting you without disturbing you or contacting you directly.
Of course, when you get this news, try not to dig for information. Keep your private life, your thoughts and emotions to yourself. Try not to drop hints to your friends or family that you're still in love with your ex. Let your ex come to you. Don't use your friends or family as mediators and don't allow them to get stuck in the middle of the reunion process. While all of this is a good sign, be reserved and let your friends and family know that it's perfectly fine that they communicate with your ex and that you hold no ill will towards your ex.
The next clue that your ex still feels something for you will be that they contact you directly. They might have a question or a lame excuse to get in touch with you such as wanting to return some things that they found or yous or to ask you a simple question such as where something is that they misplaced. The truth is that they are contacting you to either see how you are, hear your voice again or to open up the lines of communication. Your ex will have moments when they will miss you every bit as much as you miss them. The desire to connect with the person that was once so close to them can be overwhelming and they will reach out to you in this moment of weakness.
Be careful not to get too excited or to think that this is your chance to get back together with your ex. Be cool and calm. If you feel that you can't remain calm and you feel the desire to beg your ex to take you back, postpone your meeting or avoid picking up the phone. Until you self-confidence has returned, you are only going to push your ex away by talking too much or bringing up the subject of getting back together. This contact from your ex is a good sign but it can be a trap that will cause you to push them further away in an attempt to get back together.
Lastly, if you are still friends with your ex on some social networking sites or you find yourself looking at their profile to find out what is going on in their life, you might be surprised by what you find. If your ex is posting pictures of what they're doing or status updates about how wonderful their life is then they very well might be missing you. Even photos of someone new that they're dating or how happy they are will be signs that they are trying too hard to prove to the world that they are happy without you.
Checking on your ex through social networking sites is probably one of the most dangerous things you can do. The emotional torment and wasted time looking at updates and trying to read into everything can confuse your mind. It's easy to create some very bad scenarios inside your mind and it is very much a one sided conversation at this point. Try not to read into things too much. If your ex is posting photos of them with new people or even someone that they just started dating then you can be almost positive that they're trying to make you jealous or make it appear that they have moved on. This will often backfire on them. Not wanting to show that they are in emotional pain will cause them to hide their grief until they finally break down one day. It will happen. Just be sure you are prepared for that day.
It would be easy to continue to doubt that your ex has feelings for you. Often, people hide their emotions and cover them with other emotions such as hate, apparent apathy or anger. Be sure that if you notice any of these signs that your ex does still feel something for you. They will miss you no matter how much they might want to appear as if they don't miss you. They still love you no matter what they might say or do with their life. Your challenge is to make them fall in love with you again. Your goal needs to be to bring that love to the surface passively. Get your confidence back and be ready for the day when your ex simply can't stand being apart from you. Know in your hear that this day is coming and get to work formulating a plan for what you are going to say and do to get your ex back.
You are probably having a difficult enough time with your emotions and your life at the moment. Trying to unravel what is going on inside the mind of your ex is almost impossible. You need to know, though. You want to know if there is a spark of love left in their heart. Can you fan that flame and make that love burst to life once again? Knowing that your ex is still in love with you can give you that hope and help you to remain patient as your ex works through their emotions and feelings. These signs will tell you everything you need to know about what lies in their heart.
If you hear from some of your friends or family members that you ex was in touch with them then there is a good chance that your ex is missing you. Your ex might say that they were simply catching up with old friends or that they didn't want to be rude to your family but the truth is probably something completely different. For your ex to contact your mutual friends or your immediate family, there is probably still some love there for you and a feeling of loss that they needed to address. Contacting people close to you is a passive way of contacting you without disturbing you or contacting you directly.
Of course, when you get this news, try not to dig for information. Keep your private life, your thoughts and emotions to yourself. Try not to drop hints to your friends or family that you're still in love with your ex. Let your ex come to you. Don't use your friends or family as mediators and don't allow them to get stuck in the middle of the reunion process. While all of this is a good sign, be reserved and let your friends and family know that it's perfectly fine that they communicate with your ex and that you hold no ill will towards your ex.
The next clue that your ex still feels something for you will be that they contact you directly. They might have a question or a lame excuse to get in touch with you such as wanting to return some things that they found or yous or to ask you a simple question such as where something is that they misplaced. The truth is that they are contacting you to either see how you are, hear your voice again or to open up the lines of communication. Your ex will have moments when they will miss you every bit as much as you miss them. The desire to connect with the person that was once so close to them can be overwhelming and they will reach out to you in this moment of weakness.
Be careful not to get too excited or to think that this is your chance to get back together with your ex. Be cool and calm. If you feel that you can't remain calm and you feel the desire to beg your ex to take you back, postpone your meeting or avoid picking up the phone. Until you self-confidence has returned, you are only going to push your ex away by talking too much or bringing up the subject of getting back together. This contact from your ex is a good sign but it can be a trap that will cause you to push them further away in an attempt to get back together.
Lastly, if you are still friends with your ex on some social networking sites or you find yourself looking at their profile to find out what is going on in their life, you might be surprised by what you find. If your ex is posting pictures of what they're doing or status updates about how wonderful their life is then they very well might be missing you. Even photos of someone new that they're dating or how happy they are will be signs that they are trying too hard to prove to the world that they are happy without you.
Checking on your ex through social networking sites is probably one of the most dangerous things you can do. The emotional torment and wasted time looking at updates and trying to read into everything can confuse your mind. It's easy to create some very bad scenarios inside your mind and it is very much a one sided conversation at this point. Try not to read into things too much. If your ex is posting photos of them with new people or even someone that they just started dating then you can be almost positive that they're trying to make you jealous or make it appear that they have moved on. This will often backfire on them. Not wanting to show that they are in emotional pain will cause them to hide their grief until they finally break down one day. It will happen. Just be sure you are prepared for that day.
It would be easy to continue to doubt that your ex has feelings for you. Often, people hide their emotions and cover them with other emotions such as hate, apparent apathy or anger. Be sure that if you notice any of these signs that your ex does still feel something for you. They will miss you no matter how much they might want to appear as if they don't miss you. They still love you no matter what they might say or do with their life. Your challenge is to make them fall in love with you again. Your goal needs to be to bring that love to the surface passively. Get your confidence back and be ready for the day when your ex simply can't stand being apart from you. Know in your hear that this day is coming and get to work formulating a plan for what you are going to say and do to get your ex back.
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